Melissa Stetten Thinks Porn Is Great

December 31, 2013 • Love & Sex

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If you asked me last year what I thought about Internet porn, I would’ve said it’s gross and if my boyfriend watched it I would be upset.  I was in a two-year relationship that turned into more of a friendship, where we barely had sex, and it was inevitable that the end was near.  I understand that men have more of a biological need for sex, but I didn’t want to accept that.  I would get annoyed if he was looking at porn or naked girls, but it’s not like we were having sex anyway, so my anger was a little unwarranted.  We broke up, obviously, which was best for both of us, and I understood completely his need for porn.

The first time I walked in on a boyfriend looking at porn, I was slightly disturbed.  We had sex the night before, so why was he jerking off at 10am?  I felt really inadequate and insecure.  Why did he need to watch porn stars suck giant dicks if we had sex eight hours prior?  He could’ve just woken me up and said, “Hey I wanna put my D in you again, girl.”  In those exact words.  Why did he feel the need to sneak into another room with his computer to watch girls with bigger boobs than me have sex with their brothers? (He was all about incest porn, I later learned).  At least he wasn’t cheating with real women, right?  Is that how I was supposed to feel?

What made me feel better is we talked about it.  He was totally honest about watching porn multiple times a week, which made it seem like he wasn’t trying to hide anything.  He also said he may have had a slight sex addiction in the past, but it wasn’t something that was affecting his life currently.  He said it had nothing to do with our sex, it was just something he enjoyed doing.  I believed him, and from that point on I stopped being judgemental about porn.  I’m not saying I love when my boyfriends watch porn, but I no longer think it’s because of something I’m doing wrong.

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Have you guys seen Don Jon? It’s about a guy who has a severe addiction to porn and watches it at least ten times a day.  I can’t imagine that being pleasurable anymore, because it’s just a problem.  I’ve noticed guys who were once drug addicts or alcoholics, who are sober now, have slight sex addictions.  I’m not saying all, but I’ve met a handful of guys who are sober and are into some weird shit.  Last night I was eating tacos with some friends, and a girl I just met was there, so we decided to see who our mutual Facebook friends were.  She asked how I knew one of our eight mutual friends, and I said, “Oh, we dated and he made me do weird sex stuff.”  That was probably a little too much information, but he did.  He was sober AND he used to date guys.  Having lots of flashbacks right now.  He had an addiction because every text conversation we had turned into, “do u miss me fucking u?” Like in the middle of us talking about that new Yogurt shop opening up, he would say, “tell me how much u love my cock.” No, dude, I just want some of that cake batter yogurt with graham crackers on top, relax.

I watch porn occasionally, and so do most people.  There’s nothing wrong with it at all.  I can’t get upset over a guy watching porn unless he does it every day or right after we have sex.  No woman wants to feel like she isn’t pretty or sexy enough. We already have a bunch of shit to worry about like the backs of our thighs being predisposed to cellulite.  As long as guys are honest about their porn consumption, it makes it seem like they’re not trying to hide something, and women would probably be more understandable.

That boyfriend who told me he liked incest porn said a couple of his friends watched porn every day and it was totally normal.  He said that ninety percent of guys have paid for sex at some point in their lives too.  He also goes to strip clubs alone and reviews them on websites.  Reading strip club reviews is one of the saddest things ever.  Guys who often review them have their own lingo.  FS is full service, BBBJ is bare back blow job, and VHM is very high mileage.  Strippers and strip clubs are something I’ll never be able to deal with.  But porn, on the other hand, is not so bad after all.

 

 

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